Love & Sex with Ojonoka


One thing that for ages past and ages to come, at least till the end of this world will not go into extinction nor grow stale is LOVE &SEX, although after sex goes into extinction love will remain. But these two words as well as phenomenon has been abused, misused and misplaced, yet they still haven’t lost their original meaning or concept or intent.

There have been several books, songs, articles, columns about love and/or sex and there will still be more because these two are topics that are not exhaustive. Several people have several definitions for love and several people have different motives for sex. Some go to the point of believing there is nothing like love or that love died a long time ago but the truth is they keep searching for love to fill the hollow in their heart because love is not dead. So the big questions here are:

What is love?

According to Musa Zekeri’s words(in Mystery of One Flesh), Love is a warm and kind feeling of liking, admiration, fondness and tender devotion without limit leading to self-giving and self-sacrifice…

Love is the grace that works to achieve the highest good for the other while sacrificing self and self-interest.

Love is friendship!

What is sex?

Sexual activities can be everything from kissing to intercourse – from fondling and touching another person’s body in a sexual way. It’s a physical, mental and spiritual activity in which people touch each other’s bodies in a sexual way, kiss each other, etc., physical activity that is related to and often includes sexual intercourse. Sex ia also Sexual Intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis. Sex is a spiritual thing.

What love is not?

Love is not sex nor is love about sexual activities.

What ladies think about love and sex

On a general note; that Love and sex are synonymous. You give sex to show love and gratitude as that’s the ultimate price you can give.

What Ladies need to really know

Sex is not the way to show love nor gratitude. There are no favours that are equivalent to your heart nor your body nor your emotions. You deserve every good thing done for you.

To show love to a person not your husband is to respect and do anything under the help of God to help him. The next time he tells you, “if you love me, let’s have sex”, know he is working on your psyche.

What Men think about Love and Sex

Love and sex are two separate things. I don’t have sex to prove my love, a man would say. Sex is more like a biological process for them. Ever wondered why a guy thinks it a conquest when he gets in bed with a girl or why a guy believes a girl he would marry, he would touch her? It’s because sex is not love for them.

What a Man should Really Know

Many guys think it a great to have sex randomly and take advantage of the woman’s emotions. On a general note, a woman feels safe and protected when she is with a man that does not violate her but respect her. That doesn’t demand more than she can give but will go the mile to give to satisfy you. Every time you get up from a woman you leave a hollow in her.

Sex is not a game of conquest. The fornicator and adulterer, God will judge. Sex is beyond a biological activity, it creates an emotional attachment, a bond especially in the woman’s heart.

Is SEX totally separated from LOVE?

Sex was original designed as a way of expressing love within the confines of marriage but due to the depravity of a man’s heart that came about after the fall, when man fell from his real estate and became animals, higher animals, sex became abused and as the animals behave, became a means of getting off tension, venting ones anger, relaxing and enjoying money.

Sex is a gift and should not be abused for its designer will demand an account of you.

When Sex Becomes abused

Sex becomes an abuse when an individual engages in masturbating or pleasuring yourself sexually, rape, homosexuality.

Why do we have sexual urge when we are with someone we Love?

Sexual urge is a gift, a normal part of growing up. To have desire for someone you are in a relationship with is normal. It brings to mind that you would want to please this one sexually, give that person that pleasure that they want. But since Love is not self-giving, is not glad about injustice but bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, since love is patient then you will wait patiently. Once the limit is crossed, trust is breached, fear and resentment can set in. Loss of confidence can set in and both parties can become vindictive then it’s better to help yourself and your partner by protecting the other person’s interest.

What do I do About the Sexual Urges even when I’m not in a Relationship?

Feed your mind with the right things, surround yourself with the right people, don’t dwell on such thoughts, DISCIPLINE is of utmost important. You don’t have to satisfy every desire. You are a being with will and you are responsible for all your actions. Don’t always get involve in suggestive discussions that arouse the desire or urge. Above all, hate sin, fear God.

You need help if…

If you abuse sex, you are a sex maniac, you don’t respect others opinion and take undue advantage of them in this matter of sex. You need to talk to somebody, a spiritual head, your parents and to God. You must be delivered from anything that has a strong hold on you. You must not be a slave to anything. Sex is made for you and not you for it.

The truth you should Live with

Every sexual activity and that includes masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex, fondling, smooching, kissing, outside marriage is a sin. It doesn’t matter what the society says, God’s foundation standeth sure and the Lord knows those who are His. Let he that nameth the name of the Lord depart from evil. 2Tim 2:19


10 thoughts on “Love & Sex with Ojonoka”

  1. I saw this topic on fb and I was attached to read the content…bless God I found it informative and transformative…God bless u and all of us.kip up d gud work ye servant of d most High because there is a day of heaven’s visitation and reward


  2. The scriptures also says that flee from sexual immorality. All other sins people commit are outside their bodies, but those who sin sexually sin against their own bodies. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (TNIV, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Thanks for always blessing us with inspiring writ-ups Pastor NOKA. You’re a divine well-spring of wisdom. God bless you!!!!


  3. Very educative and informative, this is an article everyone both young and old must read! More power to your elbow in this course of social and spiritual strenghtening.

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  4. More people,especially males should read this. It reminds us that in this crazy messy world of ours,sexual purity is still very possible. God bless you Veena.

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