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I'm a microbiologist currently undergoing my MSc in medical microbiology but I have a passion for writing especially to improve lives.

ENIGMA


ENIGMA

My eyes hold frozen tears

My heart bleeds from injuries inflicted on it

My lips are sore

My sole is covered with blisters

 

My skin peels away

Aged from the heat of the savannah

Thirst grips my throat

Rips it off like an enemy

 

I am crying out

But my words have become solid

So sublime is my voice

Nobody hears it

 

Fading into the night

I am but a silhouette

Christened with a form

Living without an identity

 

Perused through and through

But unable to find my definition

Dubbed a miniature by guilty culprits

I could only move stealthily not to awaken the lie

 

Oh! That tears would wash the pain in my soul

Bringing me out of my incognito

If only my smiles is no alias

Then I could start my journey to self-discovery

CLIMBING THE LADDER (success tips)


 

Don’t Stop There

I watched my eight months old son who is learning to walk as took steps and pulling me along as his support and he the guide, I was amused. As he led me enthusiastically and I sheepishly followed, he came to a point where he halted. On that spot was a sachet of milo which caught his attention and then he sat down leaving me to continue the journey if I so wish. At that moment, this thought I am about to share with you dawned on me.

 

Why Stop There?

How many times have you been distracted by talks, criticism, large cheque, huge pay, good recommendation and you either think you have arrived or you cannot go further?

 

How many times have you let go because you have tried over and again and have failed?

 

How many times have you settled there because you received an award in the office?

 

How many times have you settled there because you have gotten married and can boast of a child?

 

How have you come to settle because you have been able to land a job and you are content already?

 

You only settle in a place you think is the best. You only give up when you think it can’t get better. You only accept crumbs when you think its a favour being done to you.

 

So here is the truth, never stop growing until death snatches you away with its cold hands. Never stop learning until your grey hair falls to the ground. Never accept defeat until it brings out the best in you. Never think you have arrived because that idea only wastes you and destroy your potential. There is more you can achieve if you search within.

Steps to Take to Maintain Balance as You Climb the Ladder

  • Be conscious of every step you take
  • Take note of the number of quality books you read in a year
  • Look at your CV regularly to check what new qualification and skills you have added
  • Take assessment of yourself and let your friends, colleges do same for your so you can find out how well you are doing in your relationship with men and how you are growing
  • Make sure God remains at the helm of affairs in your life
  • Keep a tab on your friends and the qualities they contribute to your life

SUCCESS TIPS FOR GRADUATES


Every year, tonnes of students graduate from colleges, universities, colleges of education and other higher schools of learning. All of these graduates are released into the labour market, all looking for a good paying job. It certainly becomes paramount to find qualities that stand you out. One can’t just bank on the first class honours or second class upper because these days, many have such qualification. So how do you compete with others and win? This leads us to bring success tips that stand you out from the crowd.
1. Decide Your Fate
Map out a plan of action of what you want to do with your life and your certificate. Don’t be the person that just goes with the wind. Ask yourself what kind of work you enjoy doing, what do you enjoy doing without being paid, what are the things you have done successfully in the past and have added to your success story?

2. Seek Information
Before you go for an interview, research about the company and the industry in which company operates as much as you can. This information will help you ask questions and help you control the interview.
You seek information on the company and its culture, the duties of the position you are applying for and the major competitors in the industries. This enables you to tell your interviewers how you will be of benefit to them. Don’t be more bothered about passing the test.

3. Seek Ideas and Counsel
Ask questions from the right sources and the right people. When confused about the next step to take, ask a knowledgeable person in the field. Many graduates make the wrong choices because they don’t have the right information. Many times, our Nigerian graduates rush for their Masters degree without having any work experience, and this is not suitable for the Nigerian markets. Most employers would prefer professional certifications with your first degree or relevant work experience which can be gotten from volunteer work.

4. Never Stop Learning
Education never stops. Be open to learning new things. Read new books in your field and where you hope to be. Never be content with just getting a job, seek more fulfilling and achievable goals. For example, you are interested in investment then read books on great investors like Warren Buffet. You want to excel at your job, then read books written by Brian Tracy.

5. Use Your Social Media for Networking
Social media has become a vital tool for everyday life. You can take advantage of it to sell your skills and abilities and get relevant. Social media like LinkedIn are available for job searches and other networking advantages to help you land the right opportunity. It works because many have gotten jobs through social media. Follow people and trends that matter on Twitter and Instagram because some companies advertise vacancies on their social media handle.

6. Stay positive
You will achieve whatever it is you set your heart to do, and everything is possible to him who believes. Stay positive in every circumstance. Even in an interview, keep a positive outlook, when doing a job be positive and you can always conquer.

The listed points are just but a few which is necessary. For further consultation, reach out To SALTLAND CONSULTING through email: aromeabikiaje@yahoo.com

 

Our Nigerian Heritage


There has been so much talk of late about bringing back our heritage as a nation and as a group of people. Cultural reforms are being agitated for by many of our governors, youth forums, and social agitation group. These have led to re-establishing our pagan worship of deities and consulting shrines which only end up demanding a blood sacrifice whether human or animal; it has brought back some of our annual festivals like oro and the likes which draw on a curfew for indigenes.
It is interesting to know that we want to go back to our roots which without divine intervention will go into extension because even those in the villages and suburbs are losing it quickly, it will be wise to ask ourselves what is our heritage. Because when I hear about bringing back our culture, all I see and understand is bringing back our ancestral worship.
What is our heritage?
Family
Gone are the days where every community was a family; where everyone looked out for another. When every child was trained by everybody and every married man or woman was every child’s father and mother. It is popularly said that in Africa, the whole community raises a child but that is no more. Children can even come out of their house to play for fear of kidnapping for child trafficking or money ritual.

Honesty
My parents told me of times when sellers could leave their goods outside and go out. When a buyer comes by, he picks his products and drops money. That only looks like a mirage now. Doors today are under iron books with security doors. Even the economy of our nation is in jeopardy today because corruption has eaten into the depth of our system. Everyone only thinks of himself, of how to eat his share of the national cake and leave nothing for posterity.

Modesty
Where are the days when women got married before getting pregnant? Where are the days where a man is punished for putting a lady for which he hasn’t paid her dues in the family way? It was an honor to keep the marriage bed undefiled. The married woman is modest and faithful. The single girl is chaste. The young men are gainfully employed, and the government is working hard at maintaining the bond of unity.

Attire
If we are going on cultural reforms and have not our cultural attire a formal dress that can be worn to meetings and offices then what culture are we promoting? The western or the homeland culture. When my V.C came one time while I was in the university and mandated that Ankara cannot be worn again, I was left aghast. It couldn’t get worse when some churches made mandated all their workers to wear “corporate”. Who defines the word corporate in our land? The westerner who is stuck with his style? If we are talking about our heritage, then we should bring back our cultural wears. Even governors talking about going back to the roots are caught in this web.

Our heritage is not idol worship. We are more than that. We used to be a skillful and talented nation leading the frontiers of Africa. Nigeria was united even in her diversity for that only added to her color but what is it today? Innovations are killed by wanton politicians. Children caged and limited by their fathers. Parents are handing no value to their children. Elders are eaten all today and not leaving anything in store for posterity.

WHAT RECESSION TAUGHT US CONTD


We talked a great deal on RECESSION AND WHAT IT TAUGHT US some days back and we promised to continue. So we are back and you are welcome to join us on this ride,

THE RIGHT ATTITUDE
Keith Harrell wrote about the importance of attitude in his book “ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING” (A must read available in LOVINA BOOKS PALACE. Call 08050785807,09029584665). Keeping the right attitude at every time makes you accomplish the impossible, ask the right questions and get the correct answers to them. The bible says, “Seest a man diligent in his work, he shall stand before kings and not before vain men.” If you have a gift or talent and haven’t gotten a white-collar job, with the right attitude, you will find out that idleness is far from you. Do you know that you can find something to do in here and get paid for it? Yes, I said get paid for it. This information I delivered to you on a platter of gold was what I searched for for weeks. Get busy searching for the right answers.

Who you follow on social media matters a lot and its a determinant of your access to a pool of REAL information. Example of people to follow on twitter and facebook are Tung Tran, Steve Rendell, Dom Wells and much more who doll out success tips.

RIGHT PEOPLE, RIGHT INFORMATION.
Show me your friend, and I will tell you who you are, is not just a popular but a true saying. The bible says that Iron sharpens Iron. If you want to stop been mediocre then check the people you keep around you and what impact they have on you. Being around success driven people gives you access to tremendous and critical information. Sitting with lazy bones only makes you blame God and government for your poor condition.
The Lepers in the bible said to themselves, “Why sit we here till we die?” and that was the beginning of the abundance God had decided to release to his people. Your handicap is not your undoing but your key to greatness. Wake up, get up and stop giving excuses. Rather start providing solutions.

So when Peak milk said it’s in you, it was sure of what it was saying. Find the greatness hidden inside of you.
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RECESSION AND WHAT IT TAUGHT US


THE PEAK! IT’S IN YOU 
The recession was one of the most sung words in the mouth of the old and young generation of our great nation, Nigeria. There is no telling of its effects on the lives of Nigerians. Working conditions got worse, pay got cut, budgets increased, demand reduced, quality reduced, and there seemed to be nothing good. We had to start wearing coats less than our size. Many other nations like Russia, Japan, USA, Canada, Germany had gone this way ahead of us and while some came out some are still struggling with it.
We could blame all our woes on anybody, but the truth is that while we were in the rainy days, we didn’t prepare for the dry season. The strength of every nation is the youth, the future of every organization or group of people are the young ones, and from my view, the younger ones suffered the heat more. If the younger generation is not empowered then self-destruct is inevitable So why this time ate into some people’s skin is because:
They were not prepared
They didn’t know how to use the resources in their hands
They didn’t ask the right question or didn’t ask at all
They didn’t have the right attitude
They didn’t surround themselves with the right people and correct information
PREPARATION MEETS OPPORTUNITY
While some people were losing their jobs, some were gaining better employment. While other people’s pay was being halved, others were being bided for by big companies. It’s about what you have in you.
Get those professional certifications when you are supposed to get it and stop procrastinating. Don’t relax in that comfort zone. Proverbs 6:6 says the sluggard should learn from the ants, consider its ways and be wise. It’s wisdom to be prepared for any eventuality when they finally come
Spending and gifting all your money without multiplying it through savings and investment in called money error. Stay with us, and we will enlighten you of some investment and job opportunities.
USE THE RESOURCES IN YOUR HANDS
The world is a global village, and we are in the age of smartphones. Unfortunately, many don’t utilize the full potential of their gadgets. Even the social media platforms are underused for beneficial purposes. YouTube is available for educational and instructional videos, google, yahoo, Bing is search engines to answer crucial questions. Several groups of people and firm hold Business and consulting classes WhatsApp, twitter, yet many find themselves outside this valuable loop.
ASK THE RIGHT QUESTION
Instead of complaining and nagging and blame shifting; ask questions like, what next? Where do I go from here? What do I do? Matthew 7 says, “ask and it shall be given to you, seek and you shall find.” Ask those who have gone ahead and who have wisdom. The social media and search engines also play a role in this.
SOME INVESTMENT TIPS:
1. Money market (mutual funds) you can start with as little as five thousand naira
2. Farm online on sites like http://www.farmcropsonline.com, http://www.farmcrowdy.com
3. Invest in people’s business ideas
For further information and instruction on investment, contact SALT LAND CONSULTING on +234-8127989899
To be continued.

Virginity vs Marriage? 


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​This virginity thing. It seems a big issue for you. And it’s generating awkward contradictions in you. It’s the hidden reason you’re struggling with your emotions. You’re conflicted inside because you know you have no standing.
Okay, here’s the thing: In life, you must learn to use appropriate yardstick to judge and determine issues. You don’t use a ruler for example to measure the purity of water. That’s an inappropriate instrument though a measurement. Neither do you use a stethoscope to measure the pressure of a tyre. It’s a wrong pressure gauge. In the same manner, you can’t use dutifulness in church as parameter to determine the suitability of a conjugal prospect. It can serve as corroborative factor or even corroborant, but it cannot be the primary basis of consideration. A good church worker is not necessarily going to be a good wife, though the word “good” is common. Two separate issues. I mean, that she can sing down the heavens doesn’t mean she will make you a good wife. Vocal dexterity is not qualification for coupling. Choir is not a marriage context. If you base your marriage decision on her ability to sing, you’re clearly using a wrong means of measurement. A singing voice for example cannot help you determine if she’s clean or a relative of Unhygienix of Asterix fame. That’s how people arrive at wrong marital decisions. They use wrong parameters. And such a mistake can prove very costly to a man in particular.
Now let’s come to your issue. You want to marry a virgin. But there’s an inherent contradiction in your quest. You can’t test her virginity unless you sleep with her, in which case she’ll no longer be and you won’t marry a virgin. The truth is, all you have is her word. It’s what she says she is that she is at this stage of your relationship. You can’t even verify her word without compromising your faith. Now, here’s the irony of your quest for a virgin wife: You’re not a virgin yourself. At some point before you embraced your faith you engaged in sexual congresses. In other words, you have a past. In the same vein, she also has a past. But you’re willing to embrace your past but not hers.

As per your wife you want to be the man who “hit it first”, but tell me, the women you hit first who’ll marry them? In essence you can’t take what you dished out. The idea of someone being there before you consternates you. You can’t handle it, ironically. The reason she’s not giving you the confirmation you want on her virgin status is probably because she’s not. She likes you, wants you, but you’ve put impediment on progress: demanded for something she can’t amend retroactively. And so she can’t lie about her past, and she can’t tell you the truth either. Stalemate. You somehow think that her non-virginal status is indicative of a colourful and flavourful past. Perhaps. Same applies to you I guess. But you’ve not told me who she really is, just her sexual history. You didn’t indicate if she’s a loving and kindhearted woman. Whether or not she’s caring. You’ve not told me whether she’s trustworthy, whether she’s someone you can entrust your life to. And it’s not as if you’re accusing her of promiscuity. So the broken hymen just indicates she’s had sex in the past.
What I’m trying to say is, virginity is really not a test of whether someone will make you a good wife. You’re using a ruler to measure tyre pressure. Now if virginity is a psychological barrier for you, I’d say don’t go into marriage with her. You’ll keep judging her in the present because you can’t deal with her past. I’ll advice you keep your imagination in check. Stop imagining someone in the past on top of her. It’s unhelpful. But you have to reconcile yourself to the possibility you may not marry a virgin. Being real! Learn to be real in life. Your generation is very experimental with sex, and sexual imagery is so pervasive. Your music videos are highly suggestive. Think Anaconda. You’re being conditioned to accept raw sexuality. That conditioning generates results. Makes kids want to experiment with sex. 
Be careful that your quest for virginity doesn’t make you miss a very wonderful and loving woman. Perhaps the first thing you ought to consider is what you want in a wife, what should you want in a wife. If this woman meets your criteria of a good wife to you I’d say go for her. You don’t want to regret not marrying her. If you marry an alternate, note that the virginity qualification will end on your wedding night. Then the marriage begins. You don’t want a wife who qualifies for only the wedding night do you? What happens in the days and years ahead? The faith you avow is very much anchored on Paul’s immortal words: If any man (or woman) be in Christ, he or she is a new creature. Old things have passed away. All things have become new. It’s either you’re going to accept God’s word concerning this lady or not. The decision is yours.
If you don’t however, that will be most unfortunate. I’m sure you’ve read about Pharisees. They were fond of using differing standards- one for themselves, another for others. Jesus had a running battle with those guys. You’re not a Pharisee are you? You can’t judge this lady by one set of standards and use another for yourself. It’s phariseic #emeritusdesk

Written by: Olanrewaju Lawal

Academic Excellence is Overrated!


​Academic excellence is overrated, please correct me if I’m wrong. Being top of your class does not necessarily guarantee that you will be at the top of life. You could graduate as the best student in Finance but it doesn’t mean you will make more money than everybody else. The best graduating Law student does not necessarily become the best lawyer. The fact is life requires more than the ability to understand a concept, memorise it and reproduce it in an exam. School rewards people for their memory. Life rewards people for their imagination.

School rewards caution, life rewards daring. School hails those who live by the rules. Life exalts those who break the rules and set new ones. So do I mean people shouldn’t study hard in school? Oh, no, you should. But don’t sacrifice every other thing on the altar of First Class.

Don’t limit yourself to the classroom. Do something practical. Take a leadership position. Start a business and fail. That’s a better Entrepreneurship 101.Join or start a club. Contest an election and lose. It will teach you something Political Science 101 will not teach you. Attend a seminar. Read books outside the scope of your course. Go on missions and win a soul for eternal rewards… Do something you believe in! Think less of becoming an excellent student but think more of becoming an excellent person. Make the world your classroom…your certificate gives you prestige, but what pays the bill is your sabificate, the world doesn’t reward potentials but performance!!!             #EmeritusDesk

THE LIE (Series 13)


Rose stood at the open door looking at who was standing in front of her. She wanted to run into his arms and hug him forever and protect him from all the ills of the world. She wanted to be the one to take any blow this cruel world wanted to mete out to him, she wanted to hold his head against her chest and tell him all was well and tell him sorry for all the pain he had gone through in the hands of all those hoodlums as she stared into his beautiful eyes and well combed and dressed afro hair. But she couldn’t move her feet from where she was standing. She wanted to ask him what she had done wrong to make him send him those hurtful words but her mouth couldn’t open. She wanted to at least say good morning but the words got stuck in her throat as she looked at him.

God he looks stronger and healthier and definitely more handsome with the scar on his forehead.

Tears wanted to trickle down her face but she caught herself.

“ Rose , good morning”. Segun finally broke the silence. “At least can you let me in?”

Rose said sorry and moved out of the way.

“Where is Bisola?”

“I will call her for you right away. Welcome. How are you doing now?”

“I’m fine, thank you”.

 

Helen was on her way out of the kitchen when she met Rose.

“ Who is around?”

“Segun”. Rose answered

“Segun?” Helen said with a look of surprise

“Is he strong enough to come out now?” she asked and left to see Segun without waiting for an answer.

 

“Bisola”, Rose called her sister.

“Segun is around and has asked to see you”.

The moment Bisola left, Rose sat down and wondered if she was just Segun’s game all along and why her sister is being insensitive, she couldn’t understand. They are friends or at least used to be before she told her about Segun.

 

Segun’s eyes drifted to Rose while he sat. She looked beautiful to him and sweet but how that sweetness was just a façade told him a lot about himself. How her innocent looks masked her cruel nature left him wondering. He wished he came here to see Rose alone because all he could think of while battling for his life was Rose but instead his desire for Rose could just be secret for now while he stays with Bisola at least out of appreciation while he figures what he is really going to do.

Bisola came out to meet her mum talking with Segun comfortably seated on their sofa. She didn’t like this at all, when was she going to wait before she it gets to her turn to have Segun to herself. Helen turned to Bisola who was standing behind her. Get him something to drink before you go to prepare something for him.

Bisola left for the kitchen and ordered Rose to take a pack of juice and glass to Segun and come back to boil rice and heat the vegetable for Segun while she went back to the sitting room and sat down praying her mum ends her discussion immediately.

Helen couldn’t help noticing the uneasiness in her both daughters around Segun. While it seemed Bisola was flirting with him, Rose looked rather sad around him and then she remembered her dream and she knew that instance that she needs to hold a late night discussion with her two daughters who she just noticed have really become women happening to be in love with the same boy.

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Bisola lay on her bed smiling to herself.

“Today is the best day of my life”, she thought to herself.

Segun on his first outing came to her place. My act of betrayal was worth it after all. And she played the scene in her head again. She had taken Rose’s phone that day in the kitchen when Segun called and she had cut the call and sent messages to him using Rose’s phone telling him he is a liar and a cheat and deserves to rot in hell and not to survive that attack. How she is better off without him and that she has found a better man to take his place in her life. She sent another message to tell him she never loved him, she was only making use of him to fill the vacuum she felt after the loss of her father. Bisola smiled; I didn’t know I could do such. Then she continued to play the scenes in her head. She went out and told Rose that she wants to take the picture of Rose and Adekola Cole and when she was done, she told Rose she wanted to make use of her phone and then she went to her room and sent the images to Segun on WhatsApp, telling him that that was her new boyfriend, that Segun should never call her number again. Segun kept calling to know what was leading to the insult but she kept cutting the calls and deleting his messages and the one she had sent using Rose’s phone and at the end blocked Segun’s number on Rose’s phone.

When Rose came to collect her phone she didn’t know all that had transpired on her phone.

Truthfully, I didn’t think this would work as easily as it did on both of them but it did. This holiday was a beautiful one after all. I wished I could write an essay on how I spent my last holiday, Bisola said out loud with a sigh of relief.

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Rose sat on her bed looking at her clothes neatly arranged in her box. The holiday was finally over and she was grateful for this time to finally return to school.

All I need right now is a break from this stranger that was my sister. Rose said to herself.

Segun had come to her house today but she didn’t get any explanation for his actions and hurtful words. She laid her head on her bed and cried; longing for someone to talk to when she remembered Adekola. Rose picked up her phone and dialled his number but no response on the other end.