Managing Relationships 2


We started talking about something yesterday, today we continue it. Thanks for reading yesterday’s article.
Have you ever met someone and you never thought something would bring you together and then what happens next which you can’t explain is that this person is your best friend or among your league of friends? Well I have. And this takes us to the next point on things to consider when relating with people:
Why relate with this person at all?
No man is an island, we were designed to need each other. Never think of anybody as inconsequential because a need as little as repair of your shoe would need the skill of someone. At least appreciate someone who does something you are not fashioned to do. Some never think you should thank someone who rendered a service that was paid for. Like the bike man who takes you to your destination safe and sound after all you paid. Maybe when u board a bike that rides you straight into an accident and you live to tell then, you will tell others who are careful with you thanks. Or when u meet a tailor who spoils your expensive dress and insults you still then you will appreciate one who does a nice job. Relate with people from where they stand for you don’t know who would be ready to stand with you where you stand. Sometimes relating with someone doesn’t take more than a beautiful smile that truly means well and it’s from inside.
What do you want them to think about you?
When I watch movies or read novels that have this bad guy who is terrible and commits serious crimes, I realize that they never look like criminals. They give the cops serious job of finding them out. When people meet them on the street they easily blend with them. They have this cool air around them. What do they want people to think about them? What people think about you is your selling point. You don’t go about being snobbish and expect to keep friends and earn people’s respect. The way you present yourself is how they will take you. You don’t go about raising your voice and want people to think you are quiet neither do you always crack dry humored jokes and want people to take you seriously. People meet to part but memories live with them. Remember relating well with people goes beyond today it tells on tomorrow.
To be continued…

Managing Relationships


A journey of 10,0000 miles begins with a step, so goes the popular saying. A lifetime relationship begins with a step, a day of meeting
This world really is a small place. I have a new friend with whom I got talking, we talked about our universities and other things and we parted for the day. The next day he came asking me if I knew Tolu, I said yes we went to the same secondary school. Then he told me they served(NYSC) together and I was like woo. He went further to ask if I knew Seyi and I said “yes, she was my junior I  secondary school”. He said they attended same University. With this I smiled to myself, this world is such a small place, how we are connected. A whole lot of us have had similar experiences. The question I asked myself that day is, what would they have to say about me?
In relating with others, we have many things to put into consideration ;
Who is this person? You don’t want to go about trampling people and passing off like nothing happened. Knowing about people you meet at one point or the other is important. Knowing them builds a sense of familiarity. Ask their names, birthdays, likes and dislikes, state of origin, etc. Those little information that could make one feel like someone cares to know something about me.
What does this person think about me?
Never give a wrong impression about yourself. Don’t let it  be that it’s when they come close they can say you are a good person because many people won’t have the privilege of coming close. The talk about “I don’t care about what people say about me” is all a lie because the truth is that you care. It’s all in a bid to conceal that truth that you say that.

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To be continued…

A must have


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The Times We Are In


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I checked my wall clock and it’s saying 8:25pm according to its 12 hour setting. I walked into my sitting room looking for what I can’t remember and then this news pops up hitting me like a bomb shell. I look back at my clock and it tells me we are in strategic times.
The destinies of nations are being rewritten, the story of men are changing and history is taking a new course while men watch it’s meander. Sons are born and sons die but the seconds hand on my wall clock have not seized.
The crafty are on the chease board while the jokers are cheering on. The game is changing and my clock ticks on. The skies fill with cloud but it brings the hot wind. The coal burns low but it’s carrying the red hot flame.
Wise men will be watching on Zions wall because like the sons of Issacchar they understand the Times and Seasons. They are not sleeping on their beds while the sons of darkness speak dark words round Zion’s wall. It’s time for all, absolutely all to wake and take on their battle clothes because the war cry just began. Wake from your reveling, get responsible because you must take the future of your children and generation yet on born into your hands. Fan the residue of energy left in you because the journey has only just begun. The journey to the place of rest.
Strategic times demand strategic measures.

It’s not only about Talent


It’s not something new that you and others have so much in common but it feels special to know something makes you different. It’s called Talent.
Talent according to the Oxford learners dictionary is the natural ability to do something well. Beyond this talent is the “You” and how you utilize your talent. According to John Maxwell, there are 7 things that make your talent worth the while. They are:
Belief
Initiative
Focus
Preparation
Practice
Perseverance
Character.
Belief lifts your talent
Initiative activates your talent
Focus directs your talent
Practice sharpens your talent
Perseverance sustains your talent
Character protects your talent.
It’s wonderful to have a talent but it’s beyond having one, it’s about believing in those talents and yourself. Peak milk advert says “it’s in you”. You have to develop your talent, that will make you stand out because you are not the only one standing at the bus station to board the next bus to success. You have to do something different to distinguish you in the crowd. You also need a focus, don’t just live life as it comes.
You need to prepare, get what is necessary, the skills and knowledge so that when opportunity comes you would not be lacking. The place of training cannot be over emphasized. If you don’t wait you can’t be made. If you jump in you will be thrown out. Invest your time and energy in things that will help you grow.
Your character is your priceless possession, if you lack character then you will never have a good name and your purpose will be altered. A good name is better than silver. Your character promotes you.
God created you and placed that talent in you. Build it with Him knowing that the excellency of power that makes a talent stand out is of God and not of you.

The Felony of Inferiority Complex


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Fighting hard to find myself
But it waste no time to sink deeper
I’m pulling hard
But Archimede’s principle won’t give way
I’m beginning to despair
But my company doesn’t even care
I’m trying hard
But all seems like tantrums
I feel like I’m tied to a stake
But I discover is more than I can take
Little wonder I’m sinking
But then it’s no feeling
My company has betrayed me
But then what was I expecting
It sold me out to fear and sadness
But how could I have been so trusting
It wasn’t all together my fault
But who am I to blame
I had all at my finger tips
But how should I have known
It took an Eagles eyes to see
But I wasn’t created with one
My courage is at its lowest
But how was I to fight it
I thought I was safe in this cocoon
But how was I to know it was a facade
And now I’m all drained
But in this I find a ray of hope
In place of this wretched companion
I find my confidence beneath the cross
And all the way I walk tall
But be sure it’s no other complex.

Discovering you 2


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Welcome back. Let’s continue with my story on how I wanted to be a Lawyer and as a matter of fact an outstanding one. Back then I would sit in front of the television anytime I see the gathering of lawyers. In fact that’s the only time I heed my dad’s instructions of listening to news even though I never heard what those people said. Those days were the only days I never slept off in front of the TV during news. I admired them.
My change of heart all happened one night in front of the TV as I listened to the bye comments from the mouth of the adults at home. I couldn’t imagine those things being said about me in every home if I became a Lawyer. This I never told anyone but myself. As time went on I decided to become an actress and I went to school with that in mind till I entered the Junior Secondary School. In Jss 2, I changed my mind again following a discussion I heard which got me scared(now I have a better understanding of what I heard). So I was left with no dream, no ambition, I went to school everyday because I must. I went on like that till I finished my secondary school.
As is the custom, when entering Senior Secondary School you have to choose between the science, commercial and art classes, I had come to the point to choose. Commercial class was no option for me and so I was left with science and art. What made matters difficult was that I was what we call “all round” student. I was good in all areas academically, my school could not use my Junior school NECO result to decide where I fall in and so I needed something to inform my decision. Back then I didn’t like reading, I was just trying to cultivate the habit especially since I come from a home where we were encouraged to read. I believed arts was about reading novels and poetry so I chickened out. Sciences was the only place left for me. Maybe if I had known that I would be deeply in love with reading especially those novels and writing I might have chosen arts. Finding myself in microbiology was a function of being in sciences and more of other factors that played and I believe it’s for the greater good. Off course I excelled in school in microbiology and I enjoy it but I enjoy reading and writing more.
I went through all that trouble because:
I never talked to anyone especially the adults around me. I paddled my canoe alone. Learn to never make life decisions alone. People have gone ahead so they can guide those coming behind.
Secondly, I didn’t understand myself. Why I was so unstable and easily changed my mind. My temperament played even as a child.
I also didn’t recognize my passion as a  teenager and young adult. I discovered I loved writing in secondary school but didn’t give it any thought. I wrote and dropped in my school bag. I got to love reading from SS1. In SS2  I had read many of Shakespeare’s work that many art students had not.
Giving much thought to yourself is important in discovering the you inside… To be continued

Discovering The Real You 1


If I was to carry out a statistical survey, I would find out that many people don’t know who they really are or what their passion is nor what they want to do. Where ever they have found themselves is where chances have taken them to.

When I was in Primary school, precisely primary 4 my class teacher asked us to write an essay on what we want to be in future. I remember writing four pages on what I want to be and why. My mum looked at it  and was surprised about how a child like me could write that much. Guess what I wanted to be?…

Many times I found out that we struggle in trying to discover ourselves, what we really want to do, who we really are and what do I want to go to school to study.

Now let’s embark on a journey to find you:

First let’s find out what your name is and it’s meaning. Before you think it’s ridiculous sit back and think of people you know and search the meaning of their names and how it has defined them to a large extent.

What is your hobby and passion? They both could be the same or different. It’s possible you have many hobbies but what is your passion in all your hobbies? If you able to recognize it then you can channel it well and it can tell a lot about you.

What is it you find your mind always thinking about? Is your mind always asking “why” like an academician or finding out behavioral patterns, being funny or asking logical and practical questions? They tell a lot about you.

What is your temperament? Are you melancholic, sanguine, choleric or phlegmatic? Finding out your temperament helps you to know and understand your strengths and weaknesses. And you can actually discover yourself. To know your temperament read the book by Tim LaHaye, why u do what you do and spirit controlled temperament. But we will still talk on temperament here.

Have you been trying to figure what I wanted to be? I wanted to be a Lawyer. So how did I end up a microbiologist? That’s the story for the next edition.

Easter Song


Blood flowed and sweat poured

So much they became one

Pain and agony knew no better intimacy

Each tear stung the brow

It was a day so dark

A night so hopeless

Each hour never to be forgotten

As each second bore an indelible mark

The accusations didn’t make the situation better

But he bore the weight of all curse still

And no taunting made him do otherwise

It was a task he must go through

The hopelessness of generations

The sentence of death

Were all slained in 72 hours

When a light so intense beamed

Chains were broken

Fetters crushed

Captivity became his captive

But it was not gamma rays

All that seemed like doom on friday

Became our hope on Sunday

But my victory started

When He said it was finished.

The earth paid her homage

As she gave way to her master

Apologizing for holding Him down

She had to fulfill all righteousness

But my Lord said

It had to happen

So that the groan u are subjected to

My brothers will have the power to set you free.

For Every Woman


Easy Tips to Improve Your Natural Beauty– There is a correlation between how a woman feels on the inside and how she feels on the outside. If you feel good, it will radiate in your appearance and vice versa. Some people feel good inside when they know that they look their best. Having said so, here are easy tips that you can follow to improve your natural beauty.

1. Smile a lot.As most people would say, your smile is your best accessory. When you meet people, the first thing that they see is your face. Before they even look at your dress, your shoes, your bag, and even the other features in your body, the first thing that they will notice is your face. So what better way to show confidence other than flashing your sweet smile? Smiling should be a habit especially when you greet people. Also, make sure that your teeth are at its best.

2. Always smell good. Body odor is a big turn off. How you smell reflects so much of how well you take care of your body so one of the best beauty tips that can ever be given to you is to smell good all the time. Shower regularly and always apply proper hygiene. Brush your teeth every after meal and use mouth spray if necessary. Use a perfume that is not too fragrant because an overpowering smell can irritate other people. Spray perfume only in reasonable amount.

3. Keep yourself fit. Living a healthy lifestyle is important. Be active and make exercise a part of your everyday routine. Not only will it help you maintain a healthy weight, but also it will also offer you other benefits. Women who are in shape feel better about themselves and have less insecurity compared to those who are overweight. In addition, buying clothes in style won’t be a problem because more clothes suit women who are fit.

4. Wear clothes that highlight your best feature. Not everything that’s in style fits you. You may not feel comfortable in wearing them and at the same time, these trends may not exactly highlight your body’s best feature. Know which part of your body you are most proud of and choose clothing pieces that will enhance it. Refrain from wearing clothes that will focus your weaknesses so always be smart when shopping for new apparel and accessories.

5. Be confident.A confident woman beats a woman full of insecurities any day. It doesn’t matter if someone is more beautiful than you. There are other women who may be taller than you or smarter than you but what makes the difference is how you carry yourself. Be confident and comfortable in your skin.

To see a generation where dreams are not shallow and shadowed by a lie but live to uphold true virtues.

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